Love Life

Many women lose that loving feeling for a variety of reasons. But a healthy sex life is important for overall well-being emotionally, mentally and physically so lets dive in, put our inhibitions aside and see if we can get your passion and desire roaring again.

Self-love is not only crucial, it’s the foundation to being able to give and receive love to/from others and that begins with the way we view and talk to ourselves. If we are constantly criticizing how we look or behave how can we expect to have others find us attractive? Confidence is alluring and the more you embrace your femininity instead of pick it apart, the more you will be able to enjoy it which leads to others enjoying it as well. Easier said than done, I know, so to help, find an affirmation that resonates with you such as “I love and accept myself for who I am” diffuse and/or apply Bergamot, the oil of self-acceptance and Grapefruit, the oil of honoring the body repeating as needed which will encourage you to let go of self-judgement and learn to love yourself and your body unconditionally, the same way we want to be loved by others. It starts with us!!

Now that we are madly in love with ourselves it helps to have passionate feelings for our partner. This may be a challenge if we don’t address some potential mental blocks we are subconsciously putting up due to past experiences or relationship issues. These can lead us to feeling apathetic, numb and/or too hurt to let our guard down enough to trust and feel vulnerable which are both required for passion and arousal. Many women attribute their low libido to physical problems which may be the cause and I will address, but in a lot of cases it is actually due to resentments built up. I view it as each time we are hurt, a brick goes up eventually building a wall between you and your partner. Until you have made the conscious decision to knock the wall down through forgiveness, addressing the bricks with your partner and possibly seeking therapy to help resolve buried anger they will continue to interfere with your pleasure in the bedroom. The essential oils to assist in this process are Geranium, the oil of love and trust, Thyme, the oil of releasing and forgiving and of course the emotional blend, Forgive along with the affirmation “I can forgive and forget. My heart now expands in love and gratitude”.

Even if all the above is aligned, depending on the phase of life you are in, your body may be working against your ability for sexual satisfaction. When hormones are out of balance all kinds of issues arise behind the scenes causing unpleasant symptoms. Good news is we are actually in control over our bodies even though it may feel as if we are victims along for the ride. Here are a few essential oils that increase libido, circulation and balance hormones – Ylang Ylang, Jasmine, Neroli, Magnolia, Patchouli, Clary Sage, Bergamot, Pink Pepper, Cinnamon, Whisper, Passion, Elevation and Aromatouch. Natural Lubricant – add 4 drops Lavender, Ylang Ylang and Clove (for a little tingle) to a bottle of Fractionated Coconut Oil

When all is said and done lack of desire may be due to the fact that you are just simply bored. Long term relationships can be amazing on so many levels but it’s easy to fall into a rut and let the excitement fizzle. If this is your situation, it’s time to step out of your comfort zone, ignore the judgements placed by society, forget the stigmas especially on women and spice shit up!!! There is such a strong opinion surrounding what a “normal” sex life should consist of but if you and your partner are in agreement with one another, explore and experiment until you find that spark again. If you need some liquid courage let Black Pepper, the oil of unmasking and Tangerine, the oil of spontaneity help dissolve your inhibitions. Let it all go and have some fun. You only live this life once.