Fear

In lieu of everything with the Coronavirus going on, I absolutely refuse to be afraid!! I spent too many years living in fear and have done too much work on myself to TRY to gain self-assurance that I will not go back to that crippling feeling. I have accepted the fact that we will never know the real, full truth regarding the actual virus and tactics used to control it’s spread. There are too many agendas pertaining to ego and big money on the line. And I am going to leave that alone right there.

In terms of health, what will be, will be and the best thing we ultimately can do it set our bodies up for success. Keeping a boosted immune system and lowered inflammation response is the strongest line of defense so when/if we contract it we will be able to fight it. In terms of the protecting the elderly, I actually see more of them out, living life and enjoying each day as much as possible right now. Of course some people are at high risk and they should definitely take extra precautions but I am not trying to advocate how people should think or live, I am just choosing to not let the fear of contracting the virus control me. Now the agendas going on are another story and not a topic I am going to elaborate on here since my posts are meant to be a positive influence on how to self-empower.

So speaking of which, back to fear. Unfortunately our mind and therefore body (since they are connected) cannot decipher between real and perceived threats so when we think it, our body reacts to it triggering a whole host of events to kick in for protection mode through our sympathetic and parasympathetic responses. This can lead to all kinds of health problems in itself. I am obviously not a doctor of any type so will not attempt to explain further but if you’re interested, do some research, I find it fascinating. Fear can be brought on by events, actions and words involving society, relationships and ourselves by our self-talk and perceptions. Any type of abusive situation usually involves the use of fear as a tool to control another as it has a powerful effect on people and the way they respond to it and therefore behave. For two decades I was lead to believe that there was no way I could ever make it out in the “real world” on my own and unless you are a very strong, confident person, when you hear something enough, you tend to believe it yourself and let the fear paralyze you into submission. This on top of watching my mom work her butt off but really struggle in so many ways while raising my sister and I alone for my entire childhood, let the fear of not being able to take care of my kids by myself plant an even deeper seed in me subconsciously. It wasn’t until they were nearly grown and had a safe childhood in which they were provided for that I was brave enough to take the chance of figuring out for myself if I would be able to make it out in the “real world” alone or not. I have a ways to go to reach the full independence I crave but am pretty damn proud of not only overcoming the fear to try but learning to thrive on my own. And I have even reached the mindset of keeping the focus on moving forward for me and not just to prove him wrong! But more on that in an upcoming post.

For now, please take care of yourselves, physically, mentally, emotionally, socially and financially and try the best you can to release your fear in these difficult times.